Don't Do It

I knew before but I've had a very sudden refresher course over the past month or so... Don't date your friends. Just don't do it! Maybe it's not even a good idea to be friends with exes after you've dated. But if you were friends before you dated which are you first? Friends or exes. It's hard to differentiate sometimes. More on this later... school & work awaits me now. I felt the brunt of my situation a few moments ago. Thus, I felt the need to write about it.

It's definitely hard to act like nothing happened between two people and go back to being the inseparable friends you once were. It's really hard when the other person hurt you in a pretty harsh way. But I think it becomes even more difficult when your ex starts dating someone else and wants you to slip back into that best friend mode. I mean I don't blame my exes cuz everyone wants their friends to meet the people they're dating and show them off to the world, but when some of your closest friends and your exes are one in the same... well, I'm not so sure you can go about it in the same way.

One of my exes recently started dating someone else & I'm really happy that this person is making him happy but, even though he's become one of my best friends, it still is hard for me to think about him with other people. In situations such as this, sometimes I'm not so sure which one I seem to be first. Am I the bitter ex or am I his old/new friend? It's confusing sometimes to differentiate the two. I.E. when an ex asks me for relationship advice is it really possible for me to give a legitimate, honest, unbiased answer? In this way I'm the ex girlfriend first. However, when I see cute facebook comments between an ex & a new partner it makes me smile because I know that they're happy. In this, I'm the friend.

All that dating your friends ever does is put one in a difficult position after the relationship ends... The friendship will never be the same no matter how hard you try. A hint of resentment will always be in the air from one party or another, and often from both. Though, I say dating your friends is a bad idea I know that I'll most likely do a somersault at another friend's feet soon. I tend to only fall for friends.